30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

by Marc and Angel Hack Life | Practical Tips for Productive Living

Stop Do These Things


When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you.

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.

2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.

3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.

4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you likeeveryone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.

8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

9. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.

10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.

11. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.

12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.

13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.

15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.

16. Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”

17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

18. Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer. let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.

19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.

20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.

21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.

22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.

23. Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.

24. Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.

25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.

26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.

27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus.

28. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.

29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.

30. Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.




Networking: The Game Changer for Successful Relationships

by Hugh Anthony, Lifestyle Writer


“Networking is simply the cultivating of mutually beneficial, give and take, win-win relationships. It works best, however, when emphasizing the ‘give’ part.”

 Bob Burg, Author and Speaker


The twenty-first century dictates that a successful career is built on a key skill – networking.   At the heart of it all is – relationships – the success factor that build businesses, and networking is the nexus in the equation.  Whatever platform you choose: face-to-face, social media or through a referral, these are all enablers. It is the relationship that’s the catalyst or the game changer.   Networking has become a critical success factor in building the foundation for sustainable business relationships and success.

Adapt an approach by exploring what you can give, when interacting with other professionals and not only focus on what you can get. Networking is not just about exchanging a business card; it is asking the question, how can I help or leave something of value?  Reflect on how you can build synergy with the other individual.  It is important, that you do your homework, i.e. research. Be definitive about what you are giving. It is in the giving that you will receive.  See your networking as a relationship building opportunity.  It is the premise upon which you may have the next amazing project partner, business contact or career move.


“You will get all you want in life, if you help enough other people get what they want.”

Zig Ziglar

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In my article on Speed Networking: Connecting Talent, Creativity and Capital (March 2012), a key element in networking is knowing how to optimize the networking experience; be it that you are a career  or aspiring professional. In building your relationship, time is an essential element. Knowing who you would like to connect with, is important.  Being enthusiastic about what you do and are willing to give, is the catalyst in the relationship building process.  Be passionate about what you do, and be curious about what the other individual does. Chances are if you are not, you might not be taken seriously.

An invaluable tip in networking is to learn how successful people interact in their community and/or industry that you may be in or have an interest. Learn from observation, conversations or reading. You’ll realize key traits, the enthusiasm and excitement they have for what they do. You will notice they are very definitive about what they want.  They are not afraid to ask for help or offer assistance. However, you need to learn and know when to ask for help and not be afraid to do so.

Developing the game-changer strategy in networking, here are some tips:  gamechanger

  • Understand Self  –  Be authentic, positive, enthusiastic, engaging and passionate.
  • Be Focused, Strategic and Selective – It is not about working the room and collecting business cards, it’s about starting relationships.
  • Know How to Create Conversation – What’s your elevator pitch?
  • Being Definitive – Know how you wish to help others (and you will be helped).
  • Be Organized – Create a schedule for staying connected.
  • Cultivate the Relationship – Explore effective ways to keep the relationships active and rewarding e.g. through ideas and resources sharing.
  • Don’t Make Promises – Act and follow-up, ideally within 10 days.  If you say you will be in touch, mean what you say and do what you say.
  • Have Fun – It’s the key in sustaining the relationship.
  • Dispel the Fear Factor – If you don’t, it will be your greatest inhibitor.

Social network platforms

Be creative in sharing and staying connected; utilize the social media tools and platforms to harness and strengthen the relationship. Extend an invitation to an event or simply to share your favourite beverage. The intrinsic values that can be gained from networking are at times immeasurable.  In the spirit of networking, your attitude will be the game-changer, and it is in the giving that you receive.




  • 7 Tips from Professional Networkers by Ilya Pozin
  • Networking Tips: Go From Awkward to Awesome by Patricia Fletcher
  • The Network Retention Network Retention by Chi Chi Okezie
  • Why Networking Doesn’t Work by Eric V. Holtzclaw
  • Speed Networking: Connecting Talent, Creativity and Capital by Hugh Anthony

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