Just Do It : The I-Conic Approach to Lifestyle Coaching

hugh anthony, certified lifestyle speaker · author · lifestyle coach

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The process of becoming your best self is guided by you; harnessing your experiences through learning, training and coaching along with some measure of creativity and imagination.”

                                                                                            – Hugh Anthony

It was Winter 1992 with bated breath that I anticipated the annual swimsuit issue of the now world famous magazine. There was a mystery about which supermodel would grace the cover of this coveted issue of the popular glossy magazine!! Yes, this magazine had record sales of over one million, not only because it was the most anticipated issue, it was every man’s dream and every woman’s envy. The supermodel that made the cover of that issue of the magazine Dina Specter expressed:

“…. should excite tons of readers who giddily await the glossy’s once-a-year release featuring page after page of barely-dressed models on beaches.”

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The magazine under the direction of its first editor, Jule Campbell former fashion writer and reporter, transformed the publication from a provocative glossy featuring a few bikini-clad women into a commercial behemoth and the first magazine with circulation over one million to win the National Magazine Award for General Excellence twice. Its swimsuit issue, which has been published since 1964, is now an annual publishing event that generates its own television shows, videos and calendars… You have figured it now….it is Sports Illustrated (SI) Swimsuit edition.

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You might be asking – What does SI have to do with the title of this article or how it relates to you? Well, that is where I first read the powerful and iconic Nike advertisement – JUST DO IT. With its powerful narrative, the ad espoused the authentic character of Nike’s brand values and purpose. It radiated a vibe, an energy and an iconic feel as that was so symbolic….as captured in the following quotation

“…it must evoke transcendent qualities of human soulfulness. And to do that it has to express deep insight into its unique purpose in the world.”

                                      Derrick Conlon

That issue of the SI magazine with its powerful and iconic ad, with its strategic narrative from Nike – Just DO IT is a special kind of story. It espoused Nike’s essence as a company and provided a pathway for me to ask who am I as an individual?  Where you’ve been, where you are, and where you are going? How I believe value is created and what I valued in relationships. That iconic ad provoked candor and thought -it challenged and explained why I existed and what made me unique. It challenged me to get uncomfortable and do extraordinary things – it beckoned me to JUST DO IT. Nike’s mission is “to bring inspiration and innovation to every athlete in the world.” What makes this a shared purpose is that Nike actively encourages people to inspire each other. Nike’s “Just Do It” slogan is a key part of its narrative and the very influence on my being and what I do for my clients the world over.

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Albeit, two decades later, I have the ad still and it has inspired me to do great things, the great inspiration by being the Co-Founder of Consulate | Milieu® a boutique lifestyle firm based in Toronto, Canada, an outlet through which we offer our I-Conic Approach Lifestyle Coaching™ program that builds on the powerful circles of influence that is your lifestyle which we explore and help you curate.

Melding the SI Swimsuit edition and that powerful Nike ad, I am excited to remind you that – your life is your gift, how you share it in a meaningful, positive and rewarding way with others in an authentic manner through inspired living is your lifestyle the essence of our I-Conic Approach Lifestyle Coaching™ program.

Your life experiences all contribute to the mosaic that creates a soul stretching, empowering and transformative way of being that provides a blueprint for inspired and focused living. The I-Conic Approach Lifestyle Coaching™ program is designed to engage you to expect, in an agile, concise and purely conversational tones capturing the voices gleaned with intentionality, which will create the quilt that becomes the premise upon which you strengthen the values that hold you as an individual together, celebrate your abilities, the essence of your existence, and provide a resounding affirmation of being self-aware, deeply connected, emotionally attuned, emotionally wired, and authentically understood.

The I-Conic Approach Lifestyle Coaching™ program is built on a deep value proposition and strategic narrative that intersects three core aspects of your life and their influences:

  • Exploration of Unresolved Expectations – The understanding of self and the unmet expectations and/or needs that create social tensions which are psycho-emotional that requires ownership to resolve.
  • Standing in the Truth of Who You Are – What are the things that bring meaning and truth that fuels your reasons for living versus existing?
  • The Narrative Circle – A collaborative approach to creating narratives in a holistic manner that encapsulates and connect specific desires, goals and unmet need in a way that creates pathways to authentically address the essence of your ideal lifestyle.

The cornerstone the I-Conic Approach Lifestyle Coaching™ program will assist you with curating your lifestyle – as a purposeful narrative – from your collective experiences. This purposeful narrative is the outcome meaningful reflections, understanding and engaging conversations that you will share with others. The outcome will be powerful; it creates your lifestyle value proposition about what you have to share with the world. Or even more interestingly, your carpe diem – your mission about now and what you will do for the world. This now becomes the journey for your life’s work that inspires you to be transformative and engaging throughout your encounters. The I-Conic Approach Lifestyle Coaching™ program fosters a shared sense of purpose that is focused on the strategic and meaningful relationships that augment your energies on being a collaborator to a co-creator.
Your role as a collaborator and co-creator emerges from your awareness of your responsibility to learn how to live an inspired, focused, empowered, strategic, transformative, youthful, lifestyle that is exuberant with mindfulness, to ensure that you connect with your authentic self at all times.

We are hosting the I-Conic Approach Lifestyle Coaching™ Workshop in a number of global cities. This workshop is designed to show you exactly how to create your lifestyle value proposition –  what you want to do for the world, by having an understanding of the journey that you are on. Furthermore, how you can connect your clientele by having a shared purpose and a value-proposition that enhances the relationship from consumer to co-creator in your business and creative endeavour.

For this workshop space is limited. The workshop is designed only for creative and transitioning professionals –  entrepreneurs, technopreneur, authors, coaches, consultants and creatives – who already have their own business but are struggling to get the desired clientele to offer value and experience lifestyle they deserve.  If this sounds like something you want to do, click the link to learn more:

http://huanthoni.wixsite.com/hughanthony

This workshop is designed as a live training experience. Building on your expectations and move you from success to significance.

First of all, we don’t give you ‘theory’. We teach you the exact methods to successfully create value, attract not just more clients, but the right ones, so you can be sure to create and offer value to your clientele both as a lifestyle and a profession.

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 About

Hugh Anthony is a certified lifestyle speaker, author and lifestyle coach, with interests in the creative industries, tourism and hospitality, and not-for-profit sector.  He is the Co-Founder | Consulting  Lifestyle Director of Consulate | Milieu® a boutique lifestyle consultancy firm in Toronto, Canada that specializes in creative, avid and exciting art-based and lifestyle projects for its diverse clientele – corporate, creative and transitioning professionals. Hugh Anthony is currently a Doctoral Researcher at the University of Waterloo, Canada where he is undertaking research on the Film Festival Industry, with his current focus being on The Role of Programming in the Film Festival Experience: Curating the Cinematic Muse.

Hugh Anthony is an enthusiastic and consummate thought leader who loves to write and is the author of the forthcoming book The Ultimate Guide to Public Speaking: 7 Steps to Professional Mastery to be published Summer 2016.

 

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The Land of My Birth..

hugh anthony, certified lifestyle speaker · author · lifestyle coach

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The recently held elections in the “Land of my Birth” have left an indelible mark on my consciousness. The gleanings from the commentaries over the last few days have been nothing short of “let’s get the business of the nation going” for many well thinking and well-meaning citizens.

 

However, there are factions that have been expressing criticisms, egos parading, tribalism, ‘pork-barrel’ politics (reared its ugly head), lack of respect for a plural democratic system, disrespect for individuals who have offered themselves in service to the nation, the sense of entitlement; to what I wonder!! and where the Vox Populi (the voice of the people, is the voice of God) is misinterpreted and misunderstood.

The national voter % turnout was 46%, and a close margin for the two major political parties. There are no winners or losers, we have a new normal – one term governance. Because what parades as the ‘status quo’ – the recycled and entrenched mediocrity is no longer acceptable. The results are an indicator that a new narrative for governance and stewardship is needed for the new Jamaica that has emerged. The 54% of the electorate that did not exercise their franchise to vote indicates a failure of a system that is devoid of solutions to create a just, fair, accountable, anti-oppressive framework and equitable society for all citizens.

Our national pledge should guide all our political candidates and fellow citizens:

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“Before God and all mankind, I pledge the love and loyalty of my heart, the wisdom and courage of my mind, the strength and vigour of my body in the service of my fellow citizens; I promise to stand up for Justice, Brotherhood and Peace, to work diligently and creatively, to think generously and honestly, so that Jamaica may, under God, increase in beauty, fellowship and prosperity, and play her part in advancing the welfare of the whole human race.”

The founders, the liberators and the freedom fighters of our nation, requires of us to remember the Nation above self. Their contributions and sacrifices should never be in vain, but for us to create a society that for generations to come will teach us true respect for all no matter an election result. Citizens are stirred to respond to duty’s call of the Nation, to strengthen us the weak to cherish by volunteering, be selfless and unselfish in loving thy neighbour as thyself. To seek God’s guidance, so we have a vision of a new Jamaica, to do otherwise evil will beset us and we’ll perish as a nation.

The power is in our collective existence (not our individual), it is also in our plural democracy where we ought to have the truth be ours forever, respect for the institutions and the laws of the land. Where there is perennial hope for land we love, and no matter where we are from, we embody the National Motto:

“Out of Many, One People”

It is Jamaica land we love, where diligence to duty conquer hardships. Where hope replaces despair, where we sow generational seeds because the land is green and the sun shineth and we will reap a stronger and better Jamaica. A Jamaica where there is spiritual, economic, cultural, social, emotional and societal well-being for all. Where the sounds of cheerful laughter replaces the frigid grimace of untold pain, the birth of new life symbolize hope and not despair, where lives are cherished and not perishing. Where songs of hope, drowns into oblivion the ricochet of bullets and the capacity to be and do good strengthens the community.

 

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This new narrative beckons us all to collectively overcome our differences and embrace our deference. In so doing, we take on the ‘Challenge of Change’ to create pathways to a renewal of nationhood, where the colour of our skin or the stripe we choose doesn’t matter in a negating manner. But represents the strength, creativity and collective consciousness of our people to foster a Jamaica, where we are seen as the overcomers, against all odds.

With that emergence, we will all be singing the words of Robert Nesta Marley, Global Icon | Legend & International Reggae Superstar’s song – Three Little Birds’

“Don’t worry about a thing.
Cause every little thing gonna be all right.”

Encouraging a new way for our people to share collective experiences that are pure and true. This will aid in fostering a renewed Jamaica that is a bastion of hope for all, with a narrative of inclusivity, respect, equity, truth, honesty, justice, love and humility be it on the local or global stage. Let us all foster creating a legacy that makes Jamaica not just being successful, but to become significant to humanity.

I am resonating the rising of the new Jamaica that beckons.

Will you help Jamaica, Land we love?

So she can play her part play in advancing the welfare of the whole human race.

I remain.

 

© Hugh Anthony 2016

 

About

Hugh Anthony is a certified lifestyle speaker, author and lifestyle coach for executives, creative and transitioning professionals.  He is committed to helping individuals transform their passions into possibilities to enhance value creation by harnessing their lifestyle and experience to be more meaningful, profitable and purposeful.

Hugh Anthony is the Co-Founder | Consulting  Lifestyle Director of Consulate| Milieu®, a boutique lifestyle consultancy firm based in Toronto, Canada that specializes in coaching, live and virtual events, training workshops an avid lifestyle projects for its diverse clientele.  He is an authority on public speaking and presents on topics relating to speaking and presentation, leadership and value creation.  His forthcoming book The Ultimate Guide to Public Speaking: 7 Steps to Professional Mastery  will be published Summer 2016.

The Art of Storytelling: Your Life as a Tapestry of Stories

hugh anthony, certified lifestyle speaker · author · lifestyle coach
You might ask yourself—Do I have a story worth being told?   I’m here to poignantly remind you, yes, you do!!

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From your childhood to where you are today and where your life’s goal will take you, there are a myriad of stories on the journey that forms a tapestry. Whether you choose to share them or not, your life is a smorgasbord of experiences. Just reflect on an amazing experience or a challenging moment.

Or better yet, you have the opportunity to hear and share stories in your daily encounters whether at work, school, home, church, out to an event listening or presenting, having fun, vacationing or with friends, they all form the tapestry of your stories that helps to shape your perspective.

Just take a moment.

Reflect.

Emergent, there is a story.

Think of your favourite story that was shared by your mom, dad, grandma, or grandpa; or perhaps by a favourite uncle or aunt, a friend, a colleague, your childhood friend or a speaker.  Your recollection of that story might just be a powerful lesson learnt—a gem for life, a memorable moment, a thought—shared or idea.

The power of your story is packed with life lessons, triumphs, challenges, inspiration.  You can share your story and empower people around you, who are able to connect with your story in an emotional way.

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You may be asking— how do I emotionally connect my story with my audience?  So what makes a story or public speaking presentation contextually captivating? How can you improve your ability to tell stories that resonates and inspires? We all have this life skill, we tell stories every day.  Storytelling is an essential aspect of everyday living from both from a cultural and social perspective.

Sharing your stories and having your audience listening to them through storytelling helps to connect your audience with the essence of your stories.  You take your audience on a journey with you, broadening their imagination through your shared experience of difference or similarity. They take a cultural tour of your life and curating their own understanding of your experiences – because they can relate anecdotally to lived-experiences in our common humanity – love, joy, happiness, kindness, sadness, pain, failures, successes, dreams and adventures.

Your audience will remember your stories, not necessarily your statistics. They will remember the ideas you shared through the narratives gleaned.

Storytelling is an art form that is an interactive dialogue between the teller and their audience engaging in an interwoven tapestry of words, sounds, visuals, imagination, emotional and sensory narrative.

Storytelling is simple, yet powerful and they are three key elements to sharing your story with your audience.

  1. The Why Matters – You want your audience to know why your story matters by giving context to the presentation, so they can relate to it. Is it relevant? Will it challenge your audience? Will it let them understand what the essence of your presentation is? Is it about what success entails or what failures you have encountered and what your triumphs are?
  1. The How Matters – Your audience came to interact with you. By sharing their time to listen and be engaged in your presentation, and how you make them understand your story is essential. The ‘how’ matters in your presentation, as it is your gift to your audience. Make it personal, the audience is in attendance to hear from you. Being authentic is important to the ‘how’ and sharing your vulnerabilities and triumphs aid in connecting with your audience.
  1. The WOW Factor – By understanding the Why and How you get – WOW. Create the WOW in your story. That is what your audience will remember long after your presentation is over. They may not always remember what you said and how you said it, however, what matters most to your audience is the WOW Factor – how did you make them feel? That will be the audiences take away. Did you connect with them emotionally, spiritually or culturally?  Were they empowered to do what mattered?  That’s the WOW factor!

The key elements make your story memorable, powerful, and unforgettable. This is how your presentation resonates with your audience, because the only take away they may have, is not what you said, but how you shared your story, and how it made them feel.

Your storytelling should begin by having an understanding of your audience, first and foremost. What is the message you want to share with your story? What is the one thing you want to matter to your audience with your story?  They form the mosaic to relate your story. How do you begin telling your story to an audience?

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To help you become a better storyteller and public speaker, let me share my SpeakSIMPLE™ Technique that I have used to connect with my audiences over the past two decades.

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The essence of this technique is to help you speak your story in a simple, yet engaging way.  As individuals our lives are a tapestry of interwoven stories, be it from a cultural or situated experience. Storytelling is at the heart of who we are as human beings, existing in a collective – family, social groups and organizations such as school, church, sports, community and service clubs, fraternities and sororities — no matter what space you are speaking.

The SpeakSIMPLE™ Technique emerges from six simple steps to guide you in developing your dialogue for your audience that are guided by a question; and the perspective that public speaking and storytelling are essential life skills. Here goes, when you are telling your story or doing your public speaking presentation:

What is the Single Important Motivational Point for a Listening Ear?

  • Single – What is the single idea that you want to share with your audience. This forms the narrative for your story or presentation to your audience.  You begin by building a structure around this idea for your storytelling or public speaking presentation.
  • Important – idea. How important is the idea you have identified? Will it inspire or is it interesting.  Once you have an understanding of your audience, then you will choose the former – inspiration.   Your idea is of interests to you, however how important is it to set an inspiring pathway for your storytelling journey or public speaking presentation?  The importance of the idea will strengthen the scenes (think of a play or even a movie) of your story.  View how your audience would think of thoughts from our common humanity – love, joy, pain, loss and happiness. This forms the beginning of the tapestry of your story.
  • Motivational – Will your story or presentation resonate with your audience? Yes, it will, once it is motivational.  Your story or presentation should give your audience a reason to reflect on their actions, thoughts, desires and even their behaviours.  The essence of the WOW in your storytelling and public speaking presentation continues from here.   The trust you will build is critical, even though the truth hurts, however it helps to redefine our audience’s motives and motivation. So, should your story and  your public speaking presentation.
  • Point – The point of your story is personal. How does it matter to you in connecting with your audience?  Your idea that you have identified, should build on the point that garner the audience’s attention.  This is where your interwoven tapestry happens.  The point of your story is to bring awareness or inspiration that elicits change, challenges the status quo or at least questions it, provokes thought and candor in the individual’s life in your audience; or their businesses.  The point of your story is what builds the excitement – the fever pitch – for you and your audience.  This point is where resonance of the WOW factor emerges.
  • Listening – The individual in your audience listens for three reasons – to accept, build trust and to reject (that is why it is important to know your audience – their interests, demographic, knowledge and experience). Listening to what your audience is interested in is key to your storytelling.  Share with them why they should listen to your story, why it is important for them (the three key elements – the why, the how, the WOW!!).  When you think of listening to your audience and your audience listening to you, begin with the end in mind.
  • Ear – There is a probability that individuals in your audience will have two ears. However, as the listener, they might lend you one ear for your storytelling. If that’s the case you are off to a good start. In our digitally-connected world, attention spans are at a premium, and as a storyteller a public speaker, you are reminded that you have spent your life listening either formally or informally.   To get both ears of your listener in your audience, ensure your storytelling connect with their heart and emotions.  It is engaging to the listener, it is short, interesting and soothing to both ears, and the soul.

Your role as a storyteller or a public speaker is having both ears of the listener and that is when you have their full attention, and as Bryant A. McGill noted, “it is one of the most sincere forms of respect”.

The process of becoming a better storyteller or an exceptional public speaker is guided by you; harnessing your experiences through learning, training and coaching along with some measure of creativity and imagination.  Storytelling and public speaking are life skills that will help you to be exceptionally successful in your personal and professional life. They both assist us having a better understanding of ourselves and our audience, which creates a synergistic relationship.  The three key elements will help you to integrate your storytelling and your public speaking presentation. They will foster authenticity and create a value-added experience for your audience.

The SpeakSIMPLE™ Technique will help you as a storyteller and public speaker to add some valuable content and strategy to your story. The techniques have worked tremendously for both my corporate and personal clients that I have coached and assisted in curating their stories over the years.

Your story is your life’s mosaic. Being the curator and artist, your responsibility is to reflect on what matter to you and your audience. Your role as a storyteller and public speaker is to design how you are going to share your art — this interwoven tapestry which is  the very essence of your life – your story.

©  Hugh Anthony 2015

About

Hugh Anthony is a certified lifestyle speaker, author and lifestyle coach for executives, creative and transitioning professionals.  He is committed to helping individuals transform their passions into possibilities to enhance value creation by harnessing their lifestyle and experience to be more meaningful, purposeful and profitable.

Hugh Anthony is the Co-Founder | Consulting  Lifestyle Director of Consulate| Milieu®, a boutique lifestyle consultancy firm based in Toronto, Canada that specializes in coaching, live and virtual events, training workshops an avid lifestyle projects for its diverse clientele.  He is an authority on public speaking and presents on topics relating to speaking and presentation, leadership and value creation.  His forthcoming book The Ultimate Guide to Public Speaking: 7 Steps to Professional Mastery will be published Summer 2016.

©  Hugh Anthony 2015

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

by Marc and Angel Hack Life | Practical Tips for Productive Living

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When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you.

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.

2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.

3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.

4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you likeeveryone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.

8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

9. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.

10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.

11. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.

12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.

13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.

15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.

16. Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”

17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

18. Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer. let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.

19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.

20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.

21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.

22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.

23. Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.

24. Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.

25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.

26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.

27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus.

28. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.

29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.

30. Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

Reference:

http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/12/11/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself/

#46664 – The Long Walk to Freedom Continues for Humanity – Tribute to Nelson ‘Madiba’ Mandela

Nelson ‘Madiba’ Mandela  1918-2013

 Global Icon | Protester | Activist | Prisoner  #46664 | Philanthropist | Peacemaker | President |  Revolutionary | World Statesman | Liberator | Nobel Laureate | Extraordinary Human Being | Father of the Nation | Legendary Elder

hugh anthony, certified lifestyle speaker · author · lifestyle coach

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“What made Nelson Mandela great was precisely what made him human. We saw in him what we seek in ourselves. Our nation has lost its greatest son.”  Jacob Zuma, President, Republic of South Africa

“In the end, Nelson Mandela showed us how to love rather than hate, not because he had never surrendered to rage or violence, but because he learnt that love would do a better job. Mandela played with the highest stakes. He put his family, his country, his time, his life on the line, and he won most of these contests. Stubborn til the end for all the right reasons, it felt like he very nearly outstared his maker. Today, finally, he blinked. And some of us cry, knowing our eyes were opened to so much because of him.”  Bono, U2

“Today he has gone home and we have lost one of the most inspirational, courageous and profoundly good human beings that any of us will share time with on this Earth.”   Barack Obama, US President

“It’s a really sad day for us, and you know we’re going to miss him enormously. But he’s left a hell of a legacy. … He’s really a master lesson in nonviolent struggle. He came from a violent struggle because he didn’t see any alternative. But if you follow where he led, follow his example, then you know, you look at any place like the Middle East for instance, and you dream of a leader with that type of courage and big heart.”   Peter Gabriel, musician and humanitarian activist

“His passion for freedom and justice created new hope for generations of oppressed people worldwide, and because of him, South Africa is today one of the world’s leading democracies.”  Jimmy Carter, Former US President

“One of the great honors of my life was to be invited to Nelson Mandela’s home, spend private time and get to know him. He was everything you’ve ever heard and more – humble and unscathed by bitterness. And he always loved to tell a good joke. Being in his presence was like sitting with grace and majesty at the same time. He will always be my hero. His life was a gift to us all.”     Oprah Winfrey

We were just reminded of what an extraordinary and inspiring man Nelson Mandela was and my thoughts and prayers are with him and his family right now.”   Prince William, Duke of Cambridge

What an honor it was to step into the shoes of Nelson Mandela and portray a man who defied odds, broke down barriers, and championed human rights before the eyes of the world. My thoughts and prayers are with his family.”   Idris Elba, who plays Nelson Mandela in new biopic ‘Mandela: Long Walk to Freedom’

“Nelson Mandela is physically separated from us, but his soul and spirit will never die. He belongs to the whole world because he is an icon of equality, freedom and love, the values we need all the time everywhere. His long, long struggle is a great demonstration of humanity. I have learned so much from Nelson Mandela, and he has been my leader. He is a perpetual inspiration for me and millions of others around the world.”   Malala Yousafzai, Pakistani Education Activist

“Today the world lost one of the true giants of the past century. Nelson Mandela was a man of incomparable honor, unconquerable strength, and unyielding resolve – a saint to many, a hero to all who treasure liberty, freedom and the dignity of humankind. As we remember his triumphs, let us, in his memory, not just reflect on how far we’ve come, but on how far we have to go. Mandela may no longer be with us, but his journey continues on with me and with all of us.”  Morgan Freeman, Actor (Invictus)

“He made us realize, we are our brother’s keeper and that our brothers come in all colors. What I will remember most about Mr. Mandela is that he was a man whose heart, soul and spirit could not be contained or restrained by racial and economic injustices, metal bars or the burden of hate and revenge.”  Muhammad Ali, Boxing Legend

“Mandela is not only the father of democracy in South Africa, but is also a symbol of democracy and like any symbol, he is not dead. He is present in all of us and guides us by his lifestyle, his courage and faith in the true struggle for equality.”  Michel Martelly, President, Republic of Haiti

“He spent much of his life standing against the injustice of apartheid. When that fight was won, he inspired us again by his capacity to forgive and reconcile his country. While the world may never see another Nelson Mandela, he has inspired countless men and women throughout the world to live more courageous and honest lives.”  Tony Abbott, Australian Prime Minister

“Through his dignity, grace and the quality of his forgiveness, he made racism everywhere not just immoral but stupid; something not only to be disagreed with, but to be despised. In its place he put the inalienable right of all humankind to be free and to be equal.”  Tony Blair, Former British Prime Minister

“A great light has been extinguished. The boy from the Transkei has finished his long walk. His journey transformed not just South Africa, but humanity itself.”  Enda Kenny, Irish Taoiseach

“Nelson Mandela’s biggest legacy was his commitment to reconciliation, was his remarkable lack of bitterness and the way in which he did not only talk about reconciliation but he made reconciliation happen in South Africa. He was a remarkable man. … There was an immediate, I would say, a spark between the two of us and notwithstanding the many spats we had later, I always respected him and I always liked him as a person.

“He was a magnanimous person, he was a compassionate person; he was not only a man of vision, he was not only a great leader, but he was also a very human, human man.”  Former South African President F.W. de Klerk

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 Quotations from Nelson Mandela

“During my lifetime I have dedicated my life to this struggle of the African people. I have fought against white domination, and I have fought against black domination. I have cherished the ideal of a democratic and free society in which all persons will live together in harmony and with equal opportunities. It is an ideal for which I hope to live for and to see realized. But, My Lord, if it needs be, it is an ideal for which I am prepared to die.”  Nelson ‘Madiba’ Mandela

“Out of the experience of an extraordinary human disaster that lasted too long, must be born a society of which all humanity will be proud.”  Inaugural address in Pretoria, South Africa May 10, 1994.

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 “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”   Long Walk to Freedom (1994).

 “No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.” Nelson MandelaNelson Mandela - Iconic 5

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“If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner.”  Nelson Mandela

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“When a man has done what he considers to be is duty to his people and his country, he can rest in peace.”- Nelson Mandela

Nelson Mandela’s Life Story – Youtube Video   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jgQBoXsxr8w

References:

http://www.nelsonmandela.org/

We Became Friends U2s Bono Pays Tribute To Nelson Mandela Following Death | http://www.entertainmentwise.com/news

http://www.cnn.com/2013/12/05/world/africa/nelson-mandela-reaction-quotes/

http://bbcnews.com

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Speed Mentoring – Creative Tool to Engage, Elicit and Empower

hugh anthony, certified lifestyle speaker · author · lifestyle coach
“If you had ten minutes of focused interaction with a top industry professional, what would you ask?”

Speed mentoring brings together industry experts and career aspirants or professionals that enable exchange of industry relevant information. This emerges, whilst networking with a métissage of professionals with varied industry interests and experience.   Based on a speed dating model, this event offers a tremendous opportunity for networking and shared learning in an interesting and fast-paced manner.

Speed mentclockoring is an innovative, interactive, insightful, fun and creative approach to mentoring. It is a platform for connecting professionals who want to share, learn and have an opportunity to help other professionals (mentees).  It opens your eyes to the world of work (industry-specific or occupation-specific) within a given glocality through education, awareness and empowerment.  Interactively, mentors and mentees meet in a time efficient manner for focused conversations; and are timely rotated to bolster the experience.

‘Speed mentoring fosters focused, one-on-one interactions with multiple mentors that benefit both mentee and mentor.’

University of Miami

It is a light hearted interactive approach which affords professionals the opportunity to glean knowledge from a cross-sector persSM  2pective. Tips, information and insights on career choices and making decision about the future, which is now, are some of the key benefits.

Speed mentoring is a creative recruitment strategy for businesses and professionals seeking opportunities, no matter which industry or sector you work in.  Maybe you’re thinking about changing careers, or trying out a new field.  Speed mentoring affords the opportunity and time to ask the questions you, wouldn’t ask of your coworkers.  Speed mentoring events will connect you with top industry professionals, so you get the edge you need as an aspiring professional or future leader in any industry.

Benefits of Speed Mentoring

  • Preparation and Professionalismare essential to the experience. To optimize the experience mentees must be prepared with their ‘elevator pitch’ and mentors challenge is to elicit the right questions.  Your character, approach, enthusiasm, charisSM - 1ma and confidence are relevant in the exchanges.
  • Sharing and Learning – knowledge and information exchange on how to gain valuable tips to advance your career in a fun manner.
  • Focused Interaction and Engagement – one-on-one interactions with the best talent and years of relevant experience in an energetic and enjoyable setting.  Through the associated activities it is an excellent opportunity to establish and maintain a relationship.
  • Active Listening and Feedbacka tool to find out what employers are looking for; and glean professional synergies and techniques needed for success.
  • Culture – affords the participants insights on workplace culture and expectations.
  • Connectedness – Building a valuable network through social and traditional media. Participants can continue to communicate with important industry connection for guidance, insight and inspiration.

Speed mentoring builds on the skills, confidence and capabilities of the participants to create open, but focused dialogue.  It is a demonstrable experience of opportunity and willingness to learn, share and give invaluable insights and bring meaningfulness to talented professionals.

You may want to check out a related blog I wrote in March 2012 on Speed Networking; Connecting Talent, Creativity and Capital.  https://creativemagezine.wordpress.com/2012/03/31/speed-networking-connecting-talent-creativity-and-capital/

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Networking: The Game Changer for Successful Relationships

by Hugh Anthony, Lifestyle Writer

 

“Networking is simply the cultivating of mutually beneficial, give and take, win-win relationships. It works best, however, when emphasizing the ‘give’ part.”

 Bob Burg, Author and Speaker

 

The twenty-first century dictates that a successful career is built on a key skill – networking.   At the heart of it all is – relationships – the success factor that build businesses, and networking is the nexus in the equation.  Whatever platform you choose: face-to-face, social media or through a referral, these are all enablers. It is the relationship that’s the catalyst or the game changer.   Networking has become a critical success factor in building the foundation for sustainable business relationships and success.

Adapt an approach by exploring what you can give, when interacting with other professionals and not only focus on what you can get. Networking is not just about exchanging a business card; it is asking the question, how can I help or leave something of value?  Reflect on how you can build synergy with the other individual.  It is important, that you do your homework, i.e. research. Be definitive about what you are giving. It is in the giving that you will receive.  See your networking as a relationship building opportunity.  It is the premise upon which you may have the next amazing project partner, business contact or career move.

 

“You will get all you want in life, if you help enough other people get what they want.”

Zig Ziglar

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In my article on Speed Networking: Connecting Talent, Creativity and Capital (March 2012), a key element in networking is knowing how to optimize the networking experience; be it that you are a career  or aspiring professional. In building your relationship, time is an essential element. Knowing who you would like to connect with, is important.  Being enthusiastic about what you do and are willing to give, is the catalyst in the relationship building process.  Be passionate about what you do, and be curious about what the other individual does. Chances are if you are not, you might not be taken seriously.

An invaluable tip in networking is to learn how successful people interact in their community and/or industry that you may be in or have an interest. Learn from observation, conversations or reading. You’ll realize key traits, the enthusiasm and excitement they have for what they do. You will notice they are very definitive about what they want.  They are not afraid to ask for help or offer assistance. However, you need to learn and know when to ask for help and not be afraid to do so.

Developing the game-changer strategy in networking, here are some tips:  gamechanger

  • Understand Self  –  Be authentic, positive, enthusiastic, engaging and passionate.
  • Be Focused, Strategic and Selective – It is not about working the room and collecting business cards, it’s about starting relationships.
  • Know How to Create Conversation – What’s your elevator pitch?
  • Being Definitive – Know how you wish to help others (and you will be helped).
  • Be Organized – Create a schedule for staying connected.
  • Cultivate the Relationship – Explore effective ways to keep the relationships active and rewarding e.g. through ideas and resources sharing.
  • Don’t Make Promises – Act and follow-up, ideally within 10 days.  If you say you will be in touch, mean what you say and do what you say.
  • Have Fun – It’s the key in sustaining the relationship.
  • Dispel the Fear Factor – If you don’t, it will be your greatest inhibitor.

Social network platforms

Be creative in sharing and staying connected; utilize the social media tools and platforms to harness and strengthen the relationship. Extend an invitation to an event or simply to share your favourite beverage. The intrinsic values that can be gained from networking are at times immeasurable.  In the spirit of networking, your attitude will be the game-changer, and it is in the giving that you receive.

 

 

References:

  • 7 Tips from Professional Networkers by Ilya Pozin
  • Networking Tips: Go From Awkward to Awesome by Patricia Fletcher
  • The Network Retention Network Retention by Chi Chi Okezie
  • Why Networking Doesn’t Work by Eric V. Holtzclaw
  • Speed Networking: Connecting Talent, Creativity and Capital by Hugh Anthony

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